When I was 11 my parents divorced and my mom married my dad’s brother. As if that isn’t awkward enough… when my brothers and I got older, we eventually had to break the news to our soon to be spouses. When I told my fiance, he said “Don’t tell my family.” So came time for our parents to meet. Everyone introduced themselves. My mom, dad and stepdad/uncle where all there (yet another awkward moment) I guess as an ice breaker my uncle/stepdad says “So did Susan tell you I’m also her uncle”? My fiances mom started coughing then started choking. The ambulance was called, but thankfully I know the heimlich and got the piece of food out right away. After that though my fiance’s parents left, and haven’t seen my family since. Can’t wait for the wedding… awkward.
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I’m sorry, but what’s up with your fiance’s family? Are they super religious? I can see that the situation is a little awkward, but over-reacting like this… I find it puzzling.
Awkward because he was introduced as the father/uncle, not the stepfather who happened to also be uncle.
Unlike Parker, I don’t think it’s a super religious reaction. It seems she was a little shocked to be introduced to someone whose first words to you are “I’m not just your future daughter-in-law’s stepdad; I’m also her uncle!” I can see choking on something–a bit of sandwhich, gum, your own tongue…
That would SO stink! I used to work with a woman whose aunt, then mom, had been married to the same man. A guy who also happened to work with us. We used to call him Duncle Stan.
Not that uncommon, I’d guess. I see yours and raise you on the weirdness factor. My father’s father (my paternal grandfather) has a half-brother who is the same age as my father.(making him my great-half-uncle). They grew up together and were great friends. My mom actually dated my great-half-uncle before dating my father, and after my parents divorced, she eventually married him. Her married name was, of course, the same – and I had to introduce people to my “stepfather, uncle-so-and-so”…
Actually, the mother marrying brother-in-law thing is more common than you think. I’ve known two people whose mothers did that. Of course, I do live in Arkansas…
Was I the only one that got that! LMAO awesome!
It’s Hamlet!
But their love is forbidden like Romeo and Juliet.
It so is hamlet!
My bet is that it was sheer surprise that caused the choking.
And unfathomable amounts of awkward that had them leave.
Haha I think not telling them beforehand was a mistake. My Stepmom also has a stepdad/uncle and when she told me I was like BWAH?! and had to laugh and be weirded out about the situation for at least 15 minutes.
not really understanding why this is a big deal.
Really? It’d be cool with you if your mom married your uncle? I can think of few family situations that’d be more awkward, really. Fiancee’s family do sound like they overreacted – I mean, the awkwardness truly is with the Duncle situation, not anyone else – but it’s definitely really, really uncomfortable.
no, it would be a big deal for me personally if i was the kid but i don’t see why
the other family would freak out. it just seems a little dramatic.
maybe if your mom married your aunt….
haaa
I am my own grandpa!
ahaha that’s EXACTLY what i thought, betty. hehehehe
i think it’s more amazing that you’re a grandpa that chose the user name “betty boop”. not that there’s anything wrong with that.
I heart a Seinfeld reference.
LMAO! Bless your heart! That reminds me of the time my brother and I (as adults) were standing in line for movie tickets and he was bored (which is a bad thing) so he said to me “Hey, if we ever get divorced will you still be my sister?”. I pinched him really hard.
haha!! I gotta remember that one.
I also raise your story. My mom is getting married to my sisters-husbands-brother…think about it….my niece and nephew with have an uncle grandpa. They are very much in love and all..but still odd.
I got lost half way through reading what you wrote.
It’s more weird to think that your sister and mother will be sisters-in-law, basically.
I defer to yours!
I love twisted family stories.
I had a friend school who had his niece pick him up in her car.
(he was 15, she was 18. He has MUCH older married brothers and his parents were obviously pretty old as well).
……Uncle grandpa though…. that’s a new one for me….not awkward…. it’s awesome.
What’s the big deal? I’ve heard much worse. The fiance’s parents are judgmental idiots for freaking out about that!
OMG! I feel your pain. My dad married his brother’s ex-wife, so my step brother is also my cousin, and my dad is his step dad/uncle – just like your situation. It’s really hard to explain to people that it isn’t incest because it’s so damn confusing.
I don’t understand why they all had to meet on the same day anyway? Couldn’t mum and stepdad have met one day and dad met another day?
My husband’s stepfather is also his uncle. After being married to my husbands Dad, his mom and he got divorced and she married his brother. It’s not so bad… we call him Dad. (His real dad died shortly after).
Died shortly after?! Oh I don’t dare to say anything mean…
My husband’s brother is married to his ex-wife’s mother- so before they were divorced it was two brothers married to a mother and daughter. What’s even stranger is the mother/brother combo are still married while the brother/daughter combo, who were close in age, divorced after a few years.
So the younger’s couple children’s uncle is also their step grandfather.
He had to explain this to me like 10 times before I got it.
Uh. I think I need a pie chart or family tree or crayon drawing to understand what’s going on in that family. Seriously, whoa.
would have been more awkward if he said he used to be her aunt! future mother-in-law might have done worse than choke
Now I have to find the lyrics to “I’m My Own Grandpa”.
“Oh yeah?” said Oedipus. “See if you can top this one…”
“Well” Elektra replied “I’ll try”
lol!! Clever
Did you TELL them not to tell the in-laws? Cause that would make your uncle/stepdad a total jerk…not that he doesn’t seem to be one anyway…surely this info is best put on a need-to-know basis. Not to be used to childishly shock someone.
Still funny that.
My mom’s dad is also my aunt’s uncle. My aunt is also my mother’s cousin. (To explain: Grandma married and had a daughter, that dude was a d***, divorced him and married my Grandpa)
Also, in the same vein my aunt (not the cousin/sister) dated my dad for awhile. Then one night she set my mom up with this dude she knew, and the 4 of them went on a double date. Halfway through my aunt takes my mom to the bathroom and says ‘Let’s trade.’
They did. My parents have been married 40 yrs now and have 9 kids.
But my aunt is just really into sharing dudes because now my aunt, oldest sister, and 5th oldest sister have all dated and lived with the same man. Sister #5 actually married him (they’re separated now)
I have 6 sisters, and I gotta say, I must not have got that ’share’ gene because the whole thing gives me the heebie jeebies.
Instead of the family tree – it’s a family bush
No, it’s actually just a stick.
Well, if you think about it, the in-laws might have thought the stepdad/uncle was Susan’s mom’s BROTHER, not former brother-in-law, which meant her mom married her own brother. THAT would definitely be choke-worthy.
Susan, do you happen to live in a place called Port Charles?
this story is false
And people thought double cousins where weird…
See my one great aunt and uncle met eachother at their respective siblings wedding (my grandparents) and then married.
the weird thing is the two families kids look nothing alike. One had kids with dark hair and the others where blondes
Nice instincts. Always reveal your most awkward trait first. Makes a nice ice-breaker.
Perhaps this is just my rural upbringing talking but why would it matter that the uncle is also the step dad? I don’t even understand why it would be brought up in conversation.
Consider it a blessing Susan…… The further away your in-laws stay, the better!
My wife’s father divorced her mother, them married her mother’s sister. So my wife’s aunt is also her stepmother and her cousins are her step siblings. I think this sort of weirdness is more common than people think.
should have liquored up the in-laws before bringing over the uncle/father
You think that’s crazy, my grandmother married my grandfather AND my grandmother’s brother married my grandfather’s sister – which makes their kids double cousins…
My mother and her mother dated the same guy at different times, and my mother and my sister dated the same guy at different times. Everyone thinks I’m joking when I say I had to move out of the county I grew up in just to avoid dating someone that one of my female relatives had already dated. And I’m really NOT joking.
I suppose I should just be grateful there were no marriages involved.
this story reminds me of my favorite family term: Funcle.
Be of good cheer young one,Your uncle/stepdaddy is probably your real pappy anyhow.
I had an ex-wife from a family that had mostly married cousins for years.Ruined lots of my
incest jokes.It’s not funny when it’s true
OMG… this is like my in laws…. My father in law divorced my mother in law and married her sister in law! My husband’s cousins became his brothers!!!
LOL. My friend Ashley had the EXACT same deal happen only her biological dad died of cancer then her mom married the brother (she was cheating on him while he was dying). We always refer to him in conversation as “Uncle-Daddy.”
My grandma did the same thing! Married her ex’s brother.
Things like this are not uncommon. My mother does geneaology, and there was one family situation that took her months to figure out. Our ancestor, John Sr. married and had a son, John Jr. When Jr. grew up he married and had a son. Then, within a year, both Sr.’s wife and Jr. both died. So Sr. married his son’s widow, and had another son. Because of this, the last little boy was also his older brother’s uncle.
Sure, it’s a little awkward, but not all that uncommon. After my paternal grandmother died, my paternal grandfather married her sister who was by then widowed. So my Dad’s first cousins became his step-sisters. I can relate to the saying, “I’m so Southern, I’m related to myself!”
Topical Quote: “…why don’t you just march those $12 pumps back to the trailer park and whip up some dinner for cousin dad?” -Caitlin to Dierdre on Spin City
A friend of mine is currently pregnant. In June, she was still dating the father. But as of a few weeks ago she is engaged to his brother. I can’t believe that she in a matter of about two months, broke up with someone, started dating another guy, and then got engaged. Let alone the fact that it is the father’s brother.
My husband has this situation right now. His exwife who cheated on him, and left him broke and estranged from his children married his brother. They have been divorced for 5 years, but she still keeps him from his own children. He and his brother were very close. He helped him through the divorce. He later divorced his wife to be with his ex sister-in-law. My husband and I are happily married, but he still suffers from anxiety issues and trust issues which we go to counseling for. Now that his brother has married his exwife he isn’t speaking to anyone in his family because they don’t want to upset the brother. He is the favored child because he has had a tough life. Now my husband has abandonment issues on top of everything else. You may all joke and say we should be grown ups about this, but it truly is not a laughing matter.