Awkward Family Story: Dessert Anyone?

June 28th, 2010

When I was 12, I got my first period. I was so embarrassed and had to work to get the nerve to confide in my mother. When I told her, she seemed very excited and oddly proud of me. Later on that day, I joined my mom, dad and younger brother at the dinner table only to be greeted with a cake that was decorated with the words ‘Congrats on your 1st Period.’ That’s right, my mom had baked a celebratory menstruation cake.

(submitted by Annabelle)


314 Responses to “Awkward Family Story: Dessert Anyone?”

  1. mary t says:

    u people are 2 funny@ i got my own period at the age of 14…wow…but not awkward orrrrr…. to b my penpal (friend) u can just call me on 08112329451 )THANKS…

  2. Eleanor says:

    My mom made a special trip to go buy brownie mix, as well as red icing. I put my foot down at the icing. I thought my mom was the only crazy one!

  3. aimeeintx says:

    My mother announced it at thanksgiving. I just turned 10 years old and was horrorfied. All my Aunts Uncles Cousins and Grandparents were there. Sometimes it still gets brought up 29 years later on the holiday as a joke

  4. Mary says:

    My mum was great about mine. No cakes, no announcements, she just told me what I needed to know. Then my dad got home. I was sitting on my trampoline and I could see my mum telling him. He crossed the lawn and walked over to me, smiled nervously, made some completely embarrassing joke that he thought would lighten the situation, smiled weirdly at a tree, and then awkwardly sidled away back into the house.

    Talk about mortification! My brain has mercifully decided to blank my memory of the rest of the day to save me the horror. Being an only child, I had (still have) my parents’ full attention, which was -not- good.

    Still, apart from my first period, I wish my mum would make me a cake once a month ;)

  5. Jace says:

    no nooooooo nooooOOOOOoo!

  6. Dana says:

    Hey, You aren’t the only one. My mom did the same for me except one of my good friends was over too that day! I seriously don’t get why you deserve a cake for getting it. i mean its kinda the norm…I dunno maybe it was something in the water when our parents where growing up?
    :)

  7. Missy says:

    Please tell me the cake was NOT red velvet cake with pink icing!!!

  8. NavyDad says:

    I am a Dad, I have 2 daughters 12 and 14. Neither have started yet.
    Both my wife and I have talked to them about the change that is coming.
    Let me tell you I am ready for my Oldest to start – mainly so we will have something to blame for the teenage years.

    I will take the lessons learned and not bake a cake; but I will try to find some special way to celebrate their change.

    Thanks for the stories.
    NavyDad

    • Lil says:

      No, NavyDad! No! Do NOT find a way to celebrate their change. They don’t want their daddy to acknowledge their menstruation. I cannot understand why you had any part in talking to them about this. They’ll be submitting THAT story on this site one day.

      • Wackadoo says:

        not necessarily. Its all about being an open minded family and showing kids that men can take an active role in their children’s lives. I think its great. Women shouldn’t be embarassed to talk to men- especially their dads about this sort of thing.
        GOOD FOR YOU NAVYDAD!

      • Katy says:

        I’m 15 and I would be super freaked out if my dad discussed my period with me…

    • Shawna says:

      Hi NavyDad,
      The mood swings and despair are often worse in the months before that first period, so it may bring more relief than you anticipate.
      My dad found a way to show his love without embarrassing any of his six daughters. He presented them with a bouquet of roses and that was that. Some figured out the connection only months later, or even in a couple of years when the next sister down got her roses.
      Being loving and supportive doesn’t mean you have to make your daughter in any way uncomfortable. She needs to know you love her and think she is beautiful. She probably doesn’t want to think about you knowing every detail of her private life.
      BTW, Daddy brought roses home for Mom on occasion too (not just birthdays or Valentines Day) so it wasn’t an out of the blue thing.
      Thanks for being involved in your daughters’ lives. What a blessing that they have loving parents who don’t shy away from talking about important things with them!

    • hannahbelle143 says:

      NOOOOOO NAVYDAD!!!! i recently started, and my dad aknowledged it a little too much… well, im the only girl besides my mom in my family with 6 brothers, and when my dad found out i had started, he started crying, and getting all: ” they grow up so fast!” at the dinner table. so in front of all six of my brothers, he told them what was going on, and told all of them that i was going to be alot more sensitive now. EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM AVOIDED ME ALL WEEK!
      so, NavyDad, i encourage you to PLEASE, for the sake of your children, DO NOT LET THEM KNOW THAT YOU KNOW! because i think the best thing for you to do is to treat them extra-special the week that they start, just dont adsvertise that your daughter is on her first period :)

  9. Dusty says:

    NOOOOOO!!!!

  10. lateedah says:

    Hopefully it did not have strawberry-jam filling. I am torn between the desire to feel for you, laugh, or, oddly, feel slightly jealous. Not that I would’ve wanted my mom to bake me a menstrual cake (mortifying, I’m sure) but I agree with a previous poster who said it’s way better than the way some moms, to this day, demonize anything remotely related to sex/where babies come from. How these women procreated, I don’t know. While I think baking a first-period cake is a bit extreme, as is how proud she was, I hope you can at least appreciate how much your mom obviously loves you, even if she shows it in a hilariously weird way. When mine came, my mom was driving my sister to her out-of-state college, so I had to have a very awkward conversation with my poor dad! Thankfully, I didn’t get mine until 14, and was the last girl in my whole class to get hers, so at least it wasn’t that big of a surprise for anyone. More mortifying, nobody told me you can’t flush a pad (stupid, I know. I was 14, give me a break). THAT was an interesting visit from the plumber! Wow, I had totally repressed that memory for a while, even though I never even flush my tampons- I wrap them and put them in the trash, too. Not gonna risk a repeat, lol.

  11. RE says:

    Well at least you got cake!

  12. Traci says:

    My story is very similar, except it’s my DAD who went to the bakery and bought a cake that said “It’s about time!” About time??? Not like I was 27…I was 12, for God’s sake!

  13. Morgan says:

    i got mine during school… in my second period class, day before my 12th bday.. i didnt even know till i went to the bathroom, then i like ran to my best friend and begged her to go to the nurse with me. well, i called my mom (funny story, the nurse got everyone to leave the room, and this like little 7yr old asked my friend what happened… my friend wouldnt tell, and the girl eventully guessed right -_-) well, my mom was at work and couldnt bring me any underwear, so she tried to call my dad, but since she had been being mean to him (theyre divorced) he didnt answer. so she called her boyfriend, and he brought them. well, he also picked me up, and as soon as i closed the door,
    “Did they fit?”

  14. Yaya says:

    Now I don’t feel so bad about my story. When I first got my period my mom was out of town so I had to tell my dad, the most shy and awkward man in the world who has NO IDEA how these things work. He clumsily went into the bathroom and shoved some of my mom’s tampons in my hands, which were too big and I didn’t know how to use them anyway. Had to wait for mom to come home and sort things out.

  15. Jen says:

    OMG! I laughed so hard at these stories! I thought I was the only one who had a family that awkward!

  16. somebody says:

    i got my first period when i was at my crush’s (now boyfriend’s) party when i was 12. my period affected not just my emotions, but affected me physically. up until i was 14 my “time of month” was accompanied by high fevers and intense stomach cramps. i was completely unaware of the bloodstains on my jeans and fainted in his basement (transformed into a rec room) he carried me up the stairs and into the living room and laid me on the couch while his mom called my parents. when i finally came to, he was washing the dried blood off his hands in the kitchen and my parents were ringing the doorbell……i was then told by my best friend that he avoided explaining what happened completely but his “friend” told everyone at the party. no one looked at me the same after that. akward……………..

  17. nicole says:

    that happened to me too… but not with a cake. my dad said “we are so proud of you nicole!” im like why! thats weird :)

  18. Amy says:

    OM Lord! You POOR girl! Sounds like your mother was very happy to have a daughter! :)

  19. Angel says:

    In Japan it is customary to make sticky rice and beans to celebrate the first period. The beans turns the rice color red and it is called Sekihan, literally meaning red rice. It may be awkward for the young lady, but perhaps it is worth celebrating milestones and realizing your life will be different for ever. I am sure for many it is a moment of uncertainty and worries (I know some thought they were going to die!), so even though it may feel awkward, I think the attitude of the people around being a positive one helps a lot and sets the right tone. It is so much better than treating it like its a dirty thing or to treat it is something associated with the original sin. (Remember Carrie’s mom anyone?)

    Of course, celebrating men’s reaching of their new stage in life is unheard of. Well, in men’s case, I doubt worry sets in as they enter their manhood, as they will be celebrating it for the rest of their lives as soon as they discover their newly acquired talent! They don’t need any more encouragement. Imagine if it were celebrated with a cake like this. You probably don’t want to picture the icing on the cake for that one! Now that would be awkward.

  20. justsane says:

    i guess this beats the hell out of my “getting my first bra for christmas” story.

    wrapped like a present. under the tree. it was over 40 years ago, and i’m still mortified by the memory.

    • Tosh says:

      So nice to know I wasn’t the only person that happened to. I just looked at and I know I was thinking “What the? How is THIS a proper Christmas present?”

  21. Joe says:

    Was it strawberry flavored?

  22. Shan says:

    I got mine when I was nine, yes nine. I was at a recording studio with my 4th grade class and had to ask one of the Mom chaperones for a pad but she thought I was lying. My Mom was at work and my brother was older so when I got home I told him and he called his girl friends and they all came over and threw me a period party. It was great for me and it is one of my fondest memories. I was celebrated as one of the “women.”

  23. cassa says:

    >>“Yeah, only that now I pee blood and have melons in my chest”.<< ROFLOL!! Adriana, you are quick on your feet and have an amazing sense of humour.

  24. Ragna says:

    Heh. That’s a funny story.

    I still remember my first period. You see, I had four brothers (all boys) and we got along marvelously. I was one of the boys, to put it plainly. My grandmother was always angry at me because she said that I had to be delicate, feminine and all that. So, when I was 13, I finally got my period and my grandma said “Well, now that you are a woman, you will begin to act like one, won’t you?”. My twin brother started to cry, and my grandma said happily “Oh don’t worry dear. She’s still the same old Adriana” to which I quickly added “Yeah, only that now I pee blood and have melons in my chest”.

    And there went grandma’s hopes of having a feminine g’daughter. Alas.

  25. Sarah H says:

    My first time posting on AFP, though I’ve been stalking it for days since my newscasters mentioned it and ran some photos one terrible morning spent having strep… :D (I live in Mesa, AZ, if you know 3TV! Those guys are nuts.)

    Just thought I would contribute my own period story to combat certain party poopers.

    Thankfully there was no cake!! However, my mother DID call my cousin, whom she raised as my sister and was several years older than me. She lived several hours north of us at the time, and still decided to MAKE A SPECIAL VISIT to congratulate me on “attaining womanhood”… and she presented me with two books that I just could not for the life of me understand at the time, about “women’s place in society” and “how to make the best of adulthood.”

    Uhhh… thanks…?

  26. Denise says:

    I agree with Jensen. I have looked at comments for only a few of the pictures on here, and just can’t believe how mean people are. Why people are like that, I just don’t understand. If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothing at all.

  27. Ellie says:

    OM*G THIS IS SOOO FUNNY IM SICK AND I COME ON HERE AND I READ THIS AND LAUGHED SOO HARD I ALMOST TROUGH UP

  28. CAD says:

    What is more awkward is everyone telling their first period stories on here. Nearly 50% of the world’s population goes through it. get over it move on

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